Category: relationships

Lunar Eclipse

Like a shadow, like a dark veil, like a harsh grip of an unrelenting storm, you slowly enveloped me, saturating my being with introspection, contemplation, and profound thoughts. Amidst the obscurity, uncertainty, and tears, I found myself yearning for a transformative journey. In the midst of this somber shroud, I felt a constriction, longing for clarity, struggling to discern a purpose. All I perceived was a coldness in my soul, an absence of gratitude, and an unyielding burden of judgment, both from external sources and from this internal ‘entity.’

The world’s energies felt like daggers piercing my heart. Why did they seem so cold, so judgmental, so critical? Where had kindness and compassion gone? Was I alone in this journey? I longed to escape this darkness, to free myself from the chains of non-acceptance and rejection, both from within and from the world. All I craved was love – to give it and receive it. Why did people appear so insensitive, so cruel, so indifferent? Why couldn’t they show empathy, understand, and treat each other with tenderness? Was pride the formidable armor that encased their hearts? It was all rooted in fear.

I carried the weight of the limitations that people imposed on themselves and how this energy reverberated through humanity. We came into this world to be authentic, to express ourselves freely, to love and be loved. We were meant to experience and create beauty, unity, and moments of grace. Why choose division? Why persist in fear? Why limit your potential? In truth, the act of self-imposed separation only isolates us from the interconnected whole, for we are all one.

Let love be your essence, your conversation, your embodiment. The more love you radiate, the higher the collective vibrational frequency becomes. This is a collective effort, and all of humanity reaps the rewards. People long for kindness and love. They desire to feel it, transform with it, and become beacons of love themselves.

I once felt inadequate, small, and disconnected, but not alone, for I was never severed from the source. A veil temporarily obscured my inspiration, my love, and my radiance. Instead, I dwelled in pettiness, sorrow, and inertia, devoid of faith. It was as if the switch of life had been turned off.

Then, as the Taurus Lunar eclipse on October 28th concluded its phase, the veil dissipated. Suddenly, everything was crystal clear, and the weight disappeared. I smiled, wondering why and how this transformation occurred. The veil had descended over a month ago, ushering in a period of self-doubt, self-punishment, and self-condemnation. I felt weak, unable to fully defend myself or understand and accept my own worth. It’s a daunting place to lose oneself. My greatest fear is losing my core self, the one that sustains, inspires, and connects us to higher realms—the self brimming with love, beauty, and abundance.

Without that self, life loses its meaning. The ego self reacts intensely, taking things personally, defending, and fighting, which only intensifies suffering. It may seem like it’s protecting you, but it’s only guarding an illusion of who you are, detached from your true essence.

You are a tremendous source of energy, capable of creating magic and radiating love. What happens in this three-dimensional reality is but an experience, designed to teach, transform, and help you understand your true potential. You are here to know yourself fully, to comprehend how everything affects you and propels you toward your true self.

Never lose sight of your essence, the richness within you, and your boundless potential as a creative being! Above all, transcend any limitations, nurture self-love, and love others as if they were one and the same soul. The concept of separation is nothing more than an illusion in the grand tapestry of existence.

Full eclipse in a night sky illuminated by stars. Elements of this image furnished by NASA (map source : http://earthobservatory.nasa.gov/blogs/elegantfigures/files/2011/10/land_shallow_topo_2011_8192.jpg)
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Annoying people!

Imagine someone who irritates you, someone who gets on your nerves in less than a minute! Someone who contradicts you, someone who doesn’t understand you, someone you don’t understand either—how can they think the way they do or act the way they act? You can’t grasp what drives that person to do things that are “unthinkable” or without explanation to you. And because you don’t understand, it frustrates you, and you think about it for hours or even days on end. You replay it like a cassette tape on repeat because it simply confuses you. You can’t accept it, and at the same time, a desire arises within you to control something you dislike, something that doesn’t fit your standards. You feel indignant, the need for the other person to change what they did, what they said, or even their way of being because it’s not right to you! You need an apology, you need that person to acknowledge their wrongdoing, and for you to be right! Or at the very least, for them to recognize you!

Why? Have you ever thought about it? Why do we get so irritated by things/people we can’t change? Simply put, they’re not like us! But you don’t like it; it’s hard for you to accept, and you keep hitting a wall every day about something that happened days or hours ago. You keep reliving it endlessly, hoping that it will change out of the blue. Or you waste time playing scenarios in your head about what you could say, do, or completely modify!

What if I told you that this isn’t you? How you feel in these moments is an indication of disconnection from your true self. When you find yourself in a negative space, it’s your inner being telling you that your thoughts are not in harmony with your true self and its beliefs. And why is that? Because your true self comes from love! A love that encompasses everything and everyone, that doesn’t judge, condemn, or have expectations—it simply accepts.

On the other hand, your Ego believes in separation, injustice, victimhood, anger, justification, and aggression. The Ego simply lacks the ability to see the bigger picture, unlike your inner being that comes from love. The Ego is tempting; it likes attention, drama, and the feeling of importance. It doesn’t trust, doesn’t believe, always trying to preserve itself and justify its existence.

If you believe in yourself, have faith in yourself, love yourself, and feel at peace with yourself, nothing anyone does to you will bring feelings of revolt but rather compassion, even if the other person has done something considered “so negative.”

Negativity and positivity, right and wrong, are subjective; they are not absolute truths! Therefore, we cannot govern ourselves by these imposed and learned standards!

The choice is in your hands: how to react and the perspective that resonates with your being. The right answer is revealed in how you feel! Sometimes it’s difficult, I know, but trust your inner compass. If you don’t feel good, it’s because your decision doesn’t align with the vibration of your soul/inner being. If you feel good, then believe that it’s for you, it’s the right answer, it comes from the right place, and it’s the response that your being believes will benefit you the most.

Try changing the narrative! And if it’s difficult, try letting go of the thought altogether! Shift your vibration to something more positive, think about something you like, people you love, people who make you happy, or events, your pets—anything that can change your frequency. You, more than anyone, deserve to be happy, to feel loved—by yourself! Your

essence knows this and translates it into how you feel! And that’s why it’s so important to be open to how you feel and to the thoughts that occupy your mind.

The more you maintain a positive vibration, the more you attract circumstances and people that align with that vibration! It doesn’t mean it will always be a bed of roses, but it’s important to maintain an open perspective and believe in the best for ourselves! Stay mindful of your thoughts and change course when necessary. Remember that the thoughts you focus on manifest, especially when you put strong emotions behind them. So, focus on love, joy, and well-being! The more you practice, the more you’ll see results that prove this to be true!

You have influence and the ability to control the direction of your life more than you think! Give yourself love, align with yourself, make an effort to know yourself better, to love yourself as you deserve. Give yourself time, give yourself space! You deserve everything and more; don’t forget who you are and where you come from! You are made of the stars in the sky, pure consciousness, pure abundance! Believe in yourself! You are a magnificent being!

With much love and peace to all of you. 🙏🏻❤️

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Inspired

How often do I have narratives in my mind, stories to tell? How often do I have immense thoughts of what I should write? How many inspiring voices do I hear, only to never put them on paper? They slip away as if I’m afraid that once they reach the page, they won’t be the same words anymore, won’t carry the same sound, enthusiasm, or intention.

When people ask me where I’m from, I don’t know how to answer. I was born in one country, spent my adolescence in another, and now I’m growing old in the one I’m in. How do I respond? I don’t belong anywhere, yet I’m everywhere. I feel connected to everything. I’m not just from one place; I am of the world, and I feel the world within me. There is no separation, just as there is no separation between us.

It confuses me to see people getting upset with one another, not realizing that they are only upsetting themselves. Why criticize or judge? Why harbor ill will towards others? Don’t you see that we are all one? Can’t you see that your own restlessness doesn’t come from outside? If you’re upset about something someone else did, look within yourself for the reason why. There is an illusion of separateness, a selfish and petty tendency to believe that there isn’t enough, that we need to defend our territory or attack others out of fear that they might take something away from us, be it material or not.

I’m not saying that if someone does something to you, you shouldn’t defend yourself, but it’s your reaction to what’s happening, what’s going on inside you when something dissatisfying occurs. Are you reacting out of a sense of lack, fear, or pain? Observe.

Occasionally, I encounter people who get irritated, people who aren’t accustomed to my enthusiasm. I’m used to it by now. Some feel threatened by our radiance, while others simply don’t live with inner peace; they seek it externally without success. And when the external world doesn’t meet their expectations, there’s a clash. It’s normal, and I understand. For me, these are opportunities to grow, to become more open, kinder, and more compassionate towards the suffering of others. At the same time, I observe my own suffering because I’m not exempt from it, none of us are, unless you’ve reached the enlightenment of your being.

I often feel like I don’t belong anywhere, lacking the foundations that most people have or seek, unable to plan for the future. All the conditions imposed on me during my upbringing mean nothing because I didn’t hold onto anything. In fact, I let go of everything! They are all illusions.

We grow up thinking we need “that” relationship, that we need a certain house, children, work, a car, and so on—the list keeps growing. I had all of those things gradually, and gradually I “returned” them because I didn’t find happiness in any of them. Happiness is sought from within! Until you realize that, you stumble around, filling yourself with things, projects, more work, and less time for yourself. Less time alone to find and realize that you already came into this world with everything you need, right here.

This doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy certain things or fulfilling relationships that warm my heart. However, true fulfillment only happens when your being feels complete without them. Only then can you truly savor external experiences because they are a reflection of your inner self.

I discovered that a part of me loves the shadows, solitude, finding itself in music and writing! In a book where words make sense to the soul. The silence between two people who are accomplices is worth more

than compliments. Strolling arm in arm and occasionally exchanging a glance and a smile.

I discovered that while others speak passionately and without a filter about what’s in their hearts and minds, I prefer to remain silent, listening not with my ears but with my soul. The words pass through me, little remains, but what stays is how they speak, their presence, their gestures, and their aura. I feel the warmth/energy of their presence, and it brings me great joy just to be in their company! I feel that words are mere distractions from the essence of their being. So, I filter and focus on what’s most important. Beautiful people expressing themselves, emanating their energy, often unaware of the interaction we’re having beyond words. They leave an impression on me, and I leave one on them. We exchange a “currency” of energy.

It’s so beautiful to see a world beyond what our minds have learned to “see.” To see a world full of energies and colors!

I’ve learned not to cling to the fact that many people still live in their own prisons because, after all, I’m no more or less than any of them. I feel an urge to help, but I don’t intrude. Who am I to do so? All I offer is an intention of love and faith, wishing them happiness, self-discovery, self-love, and the most peaceful path possible. May their pains be seen as lessons, not defeats, but as achievements. May these lessons bring them more structure in what makes them happy and what they need to let go of.

I discovered the silence between words, the silence in music, silence even in the midst of chaos! This silence is so full of peace and love, so welcoming. It cradles you and takes you to a place I like to call “HOME.”

I hope that each one of us has the ability, no matter where we are or who we’re with, to always return home. To be at home!

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Family Turmoil

Surrendering to yourself and to the situation can be daunting, but it can provide a much-needed relief from the overwhelming and chaotic thoughts, feelings and emotions that come with family. When we understand that we have ultimate control over the way our lives unfold, we can begin to appreciate the power of the surrender process. Feeling our way through the stories, conflicts, and struggles that come with family relationships helps us to recognize our ability to cope with all of life’s challenges and to take charge of our own spiritual path and enlightenment. Even when situations may seem heavy, we can look past the illusion and remember that surrender is the key to unlocking our peace within.

Stop struggling and fighting, stop trying to prove yourself to anyone and looking for love from the outside. Stop looking for answers and solutions from elsewhere, especially from outside sources. The answers you seek are inside yourself.

Your parents, your mother, your father—they can’t provide the answers for their actions or your feelings. They don’t have the answers either. In the end, it’s not anyone’s fault; even if you wish it were, it’s yours. You’re the one who has to own up to your feelings and take responsibility for them.

Take a step back and try to understand yourself. You’ll find the answers you need within.

Surrendering can be a difficult concept to understand because on the surface it looks like we are giving up our own will – a part of ourselves we hold sacred – in order to please someone else or to look better in the eyes of others. We also often feel the need for validation and recognition from other people and subconsciously think that surrendering in situations or relationships means that we are being taken advantage of by others.

When we want to let go of something and be done with it, surrendering can often feel like the only solution. But we need to remember that surrendering comes with a promise of release and a sense of peace and acceptance. It means to be willing to let go of any attachment that we may have and understand it for what it is. Only then can we take the first step towards true liberation.

In order to surrender and truly welcome peace, we need to be willing to forgive and release any feelings of guilt, blame and shame we may have associated with a situation. This can be hard to do, but it can be a process of self-love and understanding. By understanding our own feelings, insecurities and fears, we can learn to let go and surrender with grace and dignity. This is how we can finally step out of the cycle of need for validation and acceptance from others, and find true liberation for ourselves.

It can be so hard to accept that our parents, who we look up to and admire, are just normal humans like us. Our childhood idolization of them fades away as we understand the impossible task of meeting their expectations and making them proud. We demand so much from them and when we don’t get it, disappointment and suffering follows.

Acceptance is key here. We can’t keep fighting against the present reality. We have to accept it and learn to appreciate the love and guidance they offer, even if it falls short of what we expect. By breaking away from our expectations, we can appreciate the giving nature of our parents and come to terms with who they are. We shouldn’t measure them against an impossible standard. Instead, let’s recognize true unconditional love for what it is and learn to be grateful for it.

We may allow ourselves to surrender, to stop pushing away and aspiring to unattainable dreams, to just be here and now. To truly be present and at peace with ourselves, our lives, and our place in the world. We can allow ourselves to be vulnerable and to accept that we are all imperfect, flawed humans. We can love our authenticity and the beauty of being alive and in this moment. To embrace the strange and wonderful journey that is life, to surround ourselves with the people that bring us joy and peace and to appreciate them for just who they are, not for what we expect them to be for us. They too are on their own unique journey, and if we can be open to explore, to feel, and to connect with our hearts, we can free ourselves from the weight of the past and the expectations of the future. We can surrender, rest in the stillness, and be fully here and now.

Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. You can be yourself without fear of judgement or recrimination. You offer compassion, understanding and space to others so that they can be their true selves. Your peace is worth more than any argument or drama. Let go of the story, the thought, and the fight. Nothing is so important that it has to cost you your peace. Allow yourself to release any feelings of anger or upset and embrace the feeling of inner harmony. Let the people and the world around you be and simply be yourself.

We may be presented with a lot of different perspectives, opinions, and situations throughout our lives. It is easy to get distracted or overwhelmed by our surroundings, but it’s important to trust our intuition and inner guidance. Don’t just believe what we’re told or what we’re seeing—trust our intuition, our inner knowing and the love we have within.

Letting go of the story and instead focusing on inner peace and love can be a difficult process. But by trusting ourselves and the higher intelligence that connects us all, we can practice learning to live in the moment and simply be here, loving.

As we do, we will gain access to a higher awareness, a more fulfilling way of life, and a more profound connection to the divine in ourselves and in all things. Let us make inner peace and love our highest goal and discover a life filled with clear understanding, joy, and purpose.

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All I want in Love

All I want in love is for someone to listen to me, with an open heart, but truly listen, not with the intent of helping me, sort something out or figure something or with intent of giving me an answer, I need someone to listen, with understanding, compassion, and recognizes themselves in me, without a need to correct me. That trusts me to come up with my own answers, that lets me work throw it on my own, that supports me and believes in me. And waits patiently without any expectations. I like to make my own decisions, my own mistakes, I like to learn it all on my own, and I would like you to respect that, and unless I ask you for help directly, do not try to give me advice, just be patient, accept me as I am, accept that I have also my inner struggles, and I need to work them on my own… but be there for me. Keep me safe. I need your silence more than your words, I need your hugs, your reassuring eyes, your positive smile, that’s all I need. Don’t force me to open, to explain myself to you. But if I do and whenever I do, please just listen… don’t judge, don’t critic, even if its a positive one… I will not need it… all I need is your pure silence, in that moment I will know that you are the one for me, because you have listen with your heart, and you welcome me in your arms. And all you did was love me purely and simply without any expectations, judgement, any thought whatsoever. You simply saw me as I am, and that’s enough.

Don’t try to protect me, to shield me, I know you care, but that, will push me further away from you, you’re preventing me from growing. I need to feel pain, to feel pleasure, I need to feel the rain, to experience the sunshine, I need to experience life in its fullest, to live a fulfilling life. So let me live as I choose, and just be with me for the ride. 

Love is full acceptance of the other, no matter how they are, how they do, what they do, you accept them as they are and where they are in their own path, without the need to control the outcome, even if you think a better path is there for them, you have to accept they have their own way of getting there, and you have your own. So focus on yourself, love yourself the most, understand yourself in and out, and you will understand the other, you will understand is nothing more for you to do but be present. Your presence is the most precious and beautiful thing you can give to someone.  Be present for the One you Love. 

Thats all I need.

Your presence.  

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