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What is Love?

What is this deep feeling we have that we call Love? 

Love is one of the most talked feelings, artists paint about it, write and sing about it. 

People love their partners, their family, love their pets, their things, food, activities, music, etc

Love is the inspiration behind beautiful movies, books, music, and art. 

People talk about love all the time. 

But what is love?

Wikipedia says and I quote:

“Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection and to the simplest pleasure.[1][2] An example of this range of meanings is that the love of a mother differs from the love of a spouse, which differs from the love of food. Most commonly, love refers to a feeling of a strong attraction and emotional attachment.[3]” 

What is love to you?

What is love to me?

Love is more than a feeling, it’s an energy that comes from within and through me.

I love people, their energy, their light, the light I see in everyone… when I can see their true nature, beautiful and pure. not the external self, not what they show to me by words, or actions, but by what I can see or feel from them. that inner presence within themselves. 

I love nature, music, the energy that surrounds me, I love the feeling of connection with What Is.

I love feeling One with it all. 

When a person so called ‘loves’ someone, they soon or later, want to control them, have expectations from them, idealise them, judge them… the need to possess, to want them for themselves, to need them but,

‘need’ isn’t love, is a greedy feeling of wishing to possess that person, to own them, and a person isn’t yours to keep. 

Nothing in this world is yours to keep, not even your body. Accepting this, you will understant what true love is.

My vision of love is, if you truly love them, you will accept them exactly as they are, no need to change a thing, accept the good with the bad, be there for them if they need, most of all, even if they hurt you, to not be angry, rather accept their limitations as much as your own, and move own.

The hardest realisation is,

you create your own suffering by the expectations, thoughts and attachment, you create.

Accept it, and let go. If you truly love or loved someone, you will set them free, free to be themselves, with or without you. 

“I love you, I need you in my life, I need you to make me happy”, you may think that’s love, but that’s attachment, attachment brings you suffering.

In this civilization we have been brought up to believe we need people, things to make us happy, we attach to everything in hope for fulfilment, (that will never come) endless pit of suffering.   

Isn’t beautiful to love a beautiful bird and let it see fly free, isn’t beautiful to love the sea and it’s waves, enjoy its waters, but not destroy its nature? Isn’t it beautiful to love a flower, see it bloom, and let it be just as it is? Beautiful.

Nature provides us with the most deepest displays of true love, always giving freely not expecting nothing in return

That’s love.

Do you know that bigger and taller trees, that can have easier acess to the sun and CO2, share their nutrients to the smaller trees, so they can grow? 

We have so many examples of love in nature, where animals and plants cooperate between them, for a better ecosystem, why can’t we humans follow that example? Why is it so hard? Why are we so greedy? 

The more we want, the more we have, and the more we have the more we want, is no end. 

As humans, we always trying to change what we ‘love’, in hope of making it better, to fulfil expectations, we are missing the point.

Why we always end up destroying what we ‘love’?

We ‘love’ hearth, but are slowly destroying it, we ‘love’ animals, but still eating some of them, and destroying the environment in the process.

If we ‘love’ it, why change it? Why is it so hard to accept things as they are? To see the beauty of it all, as it is?

“The Tao does nothing. But Leaves Nothing Undone” – Tao Te Ching.

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Solitary Souls

Souls that live for themselves, to themselves, free from other’s – other’s thoughts, other’s perspectives, other’s expectations.

They see the world from a different perspective than most. They focus on their growth, they believe in themselves to, create a life they dreamed of without attachments.

They are free to experience the world in its fullest, without restrictions.

They are strong, committed, and willing to adventure, adventure to conquer their goals, their dreams.

They have a clear understanding of themselves, they dedicate much of their lives pursuing their purpose in life, finding life’s meaning.

They can be fearless, adventuring through life with open eyes, and open heart, open soul, ready for the challenges that life brings them.

Some dedicate their life to others; after dedicating so much time on their own, rediscovering themselves, experiencing the world and growing; they find meaning, purpose, by assisting others to discover themselves.

In the end, we all the same, is just some of us have more zest for self discovery.

It doesn’t mean that they don’t feel lonely sometimes, or that they isolate themselves from social encounters, they can be very social, but they understand the importance of oneself and their limitations.

They can come across selfish or egocentric, but I find that to be much further from the truth, they just value themselves, and use life experiences to grow, that growth doesn’t just help them, but others around them.

If you dedicate much of your time seeking your dreams, conquering your goals, dedicating time to yourself to experience life on your own, to experience the world as it is, to observe your thoughts and feelings, you not only have a better understanding of yourself, but also others.

Some of us are entangled with life commitments and other people’s expectations, thoughts, feelings, and end up not knowing if we leaving for yourselves or others, we end up forgetting our own identity.

If you can’t be your authentic self, you voiding the world from your true potential.

I know isn’t easy to find time for ourselves in this chaotic world sometimes, but, time is only relative, it will be what you want it to be.

If you want to have more time for yourself find it!

Be more mindful of your presence through the world, be aware of your thoughts, feelings, your body, your steps, the way you do things, the way you speak, feel your presence at this exact moment!

Mindfulness is a great way to dedicate ‘time’ to ourselves, we forget to breathe sometimes, so breathe, consciously feel your chest rise and fall, feel your feet on the ground… you can be mindful anytime and anywhere, with a little practice it becomes a habit, and what a better way to remind ourselves that we are alive, here and now!

What a better way to honor ourselves and others but, to just be present.

By present, I mean truly present, where you feel the world through your being, free from conceptions and attachments.

Much Love And Pece From My Heart To Yours – Namasté

“Life gives you plenty of time to do whatever you want to do if you stay in the present moment.” — Deepak Chopra

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Successful People Rise Early

Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.”
~Benjamin Franklin

Dedicating a good couple of hours, to myself, in the morning, prove to be a bliss, some would say, “I would rather dedicate those hours to myself sleeping”. But then you miss an opportunity to see the sunrise, to just breathe, to feel the fresh energy of mind and body that arrises every morning, you would miss the opportunity to feel the moment, to be present.

As I rise earlier, I feel calmer, more peaceful, taking my time to feel the day, to feel the cold air of the morning, to enjoy my coffee, to listen to the birds, to plan my day peacefully, to write my journal, to let my thoughts came and go at they own course, no rush.

Meditations on the morning are much more fruitful too, pure bliss, I feel my essence in its purest. If left for the end of the day, the mind is tired of all things that went through the day, thoughts are more intrusive, peace, stillness, quietness aren’t easily achieved (having a toddler around makes it harder too).

In the morning the mind is fresh to take in new challenges.

In the morning you have the strength to face the challenges of the day, your mind is ready and fresh to come up with the wisest answers.

Do you wanna give it a try?
What you have to gain?
A lot!

What have you got to lose?
Sleep, unless you go to bed earlier, and stop yourself from just staring at the TV all night, watching meaningless programs, that aren’t productive or fruitful to your mind.

Try increments of half-hour, half-hour earlier to sleep, a half-hour earlier to get up, and then stay with what feels more comfortable to you.

Wake up slowly, take your time to feel the day, open your eyes and just stay there for minute, look out the window, observe the sky, when you ready get yourself up, put a nice piece of music, something you really enjoy, make your coffee, savor it, just be present, let your thoughts come and go. Make a plan for the day, and then let it be, trust that will be done.

Feel the fresh air in the morning, perhaps go for a little jog, do some yoga, or some kind of exercise you enjoy…

That will set up your energy for the day…

I’m not saying this a miracle cure for crappy days, you’ll still have them, but they will not be as bad, you will have time to process your mood, to accept it, and to be kinder to yourself.

Whatever you do, always remember to be kind and loving towards yourself. Dedicate this time to you, you are worth it!

May your day be joyful and enriching…

From my heart to yours – Namaste 🙏🏻

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My deepest self

I struggle to express my deepest feelings and thoughts, so I’ve though of a way to express myself here.

I love writing, what a better way, but to put in writing, what goes in my heart.

I struggle with questions, when people ask of me what I can’t give, not because I don’t want to, but because I’m just unable too.

Thoughts aren’t mine, I’ve detached myself from them, I see them come and see them go, I do not engage or trust them, because they aren’t permanent (Buddha’s teachings), and it’s true!

Since then I feel freer and more peaceful.

When someone forces answers I don’t know what to say.

I’ll express myself when I’m ready, when I feel like it, not when I’m pushed to give answers.

It makes me nervous. I’m as much an introvert as an extrovert, I like to be quiet, in my own world, I think, but do not overthink, I let my thoughts come and go as they please.

I simply don’t think is wise to follow my thoughts, they are just thoughts, I rarther follow my intuition, whatever feels right at the moment, whatever resonates with my essence.

When someone keeps asking about what I think, it’s hard, because,

I don’t really like to think much, I do like to feel, and go with the feeling, and again, isn’t really a feeling, but more like a force that propels me, something higher then myself that “tells” me what to do and when to do it.

I do plan the future, I have expectations, I have thoughts, but I make my plans, when I’m ready, and then I just trust my intuition, that “voice” to follow through.

At the moment I’m experiencing something, I don’t think have experienced before – Heartbreak – would I thought would be this painful? No, I just feel my heart has been stolen, like it was when I lost my child.

I just feel lost, but not desperate, I let the feeling be, embrace it, its part of the process, I don’t overthink, I just let it be.

It’s pointless to keep thinking, to go over and over things.

Let it just be.

Once you surrender to the pain, to the overwhelming feeling, its energy is released.

Little by little, you become free, peaceful, that for me is enough, feelings are just feelings, they come and go, just like thoughts.

Don’t make much of it, because they are not yours to begin with (Zen teachings).

I’m grateful for meditation, and all the Buddhist teachings I’ve learned, as they allow me to experience thing in a different way, see things differently and process whatever its happening in a useful way, for personal growth.

I like to listen, allow someone talk what goes in their heart, or even just simple conversation, I enjoy that.

But ask me questions with no end, I don’t know what to do.

Ask me for advice, I’ll gadly give you.

But go over and over the same subject, makes my mind spin, its like I’m in their mind, and all I experience is a world of thoughts spinning around like mad, its chaos!

The world would be so much simpler and peaceful if, people would realise that their thoughts, aren’t actually theirs, and the more you give in to thinking, the more unsettle, confused and untanngled you become, is no freedom.

Meditation is my refuge, my yoga is my home, where I can just feel my presence, be more connected to what is, to the world as it is, root down, ground myself, and just be.

I feel is nothing for me to do, and still nothing is left undone. Be free to experience the world as it is.

Such a beautiful feeling – peace.

When your feet touch the earth, your hands the water, your skin the air, and your heart the warmth of the sun – its pure joy, its magical, you are one with it all.

I hope one day I find someone that understands me, that accepts me as I am, that true connection does not need words, in a sense, a connection that goes beyond words.

But if I don’t, I don’t, again I’m not overthinking, I just take life as it comes, be what it will be, I’m One with it, I trust my InnerSelf to guide me, to speak my truth, to be my TrueSelf, to honour my essence.

May there be peace and love in my heart as in yous 🙏🏻

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.” Lao Tzu

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