Tag: wellbeing

The World of an Introvert

I never realised I was an introvert, I just thought I was different, weird šŸ˜…, after all, I’m an introvertā€¦ 

Since childhood, enjoying my own time aloneā€¦ leaving in my own little worldā€¦ apparently, you already born that way, go figure, I’ve only learned about it, now!
 

Are you an Introvert? 

Introverts enjoy spending time alone, they also like to enjoy social time. But alone time feels peaceful and refreshing – recharging!
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Sometimes social time can be draining, especially if, in contact with new people, large crowds, or noisy environments. Spending a long time, in this kind of setting, will kick you out.

They like to spend time with close friends, they can even seem like an extrovert, interaction with close ones are fulfilling and enjoyable, but once it becomes a larger group, you be sure to start feeling drained out, in no time, it’s their kryptonite! šŸ˜‚

Introverts like to work alone, it’s alone that they can concentrate, be more creative, more productive and show the best results.
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They can also work in a team but, they need to withdraw after meetings, discussions, or any other kind of interaction. To gather their thoughts and recharge.

They have a very rich mind, spending lots of time thinking, dreaming, imagining, pondering, creating their own little world, and feeling very comfortable on it.
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They tend to zone out, in conversations, not because they are not interested, but in their own head, whatever they thinking or imagining, is much more interesting.

They prefer to lay low, away from the spotlight.Ā 

But you do have introverts that are artists, performers, business leaders,  and they go on stage to perform, give speeches, make presentations, and are comfortable with it, a skill they have learned to master, even when it goes against their nature.
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They struggle to find the right words, on the moment, don’t always known what to say. To then, be thinking long after, of what they should or could of said.

They find writing a more comfortable way to express their feelings, it’s on writing that, they can express clearer and more compressively what’s on their mind and heart. They can really struggle with spoken words.

They go deep into thinking, about relationships, loved ones, friends, work, life in general, being creative, reading, and pursuing their dreams.
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They seek meaning in everything, relationships, goals, conversations – they don’t do shallow.
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They feel out of place when pressured to be more social.

Do you identify? Maybe you are one too!

Introverts Rock! 

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What is Love?

What is this deep feeling we have that we call Love? 

Love is one of the most talked feelings, artists paint about it, write and sing about it. 

People love their partners, their family, love their pets, their things, food, activities, music, etc

Love is the inspiration behind beautiful movies, books, music, and art. 

People talk about love all the time. 

But what is love?

Wikipedia says and I quote:

“LoveĀ encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublimeĀ virtueĀ or good habit, the deepestĀ interpersonal affectionĀ and to the simplestĀ pleasure.[1][2]Ā An example of this range of meanings is that the love of a mother differs from the love of a spouse, which differs from the love of food. Most commonly, love refers to a feeling of a strong attraction and emotionalĀ attachment.[3]”Ā 

What is love to you?

What is love to me?

Love is more than a feeling, it’s an energy that comes from within and through me.

I love people, their energy, their light, the light I see in everyone… when I can see their true nature, beautiful and pure. not the external self, not what they show to me by words, or actions, but by what I can see or feel from them. that inner presence within themselves.Ā 

I love nature, music, the energy that surrounds me, I love the feeling of connection with What Is.

I love feeling One with it all.Ā 

When a person so called ‘loves’ someone, they soon or later, want to control them, have expectations from them, idealise them, judge them… the need to possess, to want them for themselves, to need them but,

‘need’ isn’t love, is a greedy feeling of wishing to possess that person, to own them, and a person isn’t yours to keep.Ā 

Nothing in this world is yours to keep, not even your body. Accepting this, you will understant what true love is.

My vision of love is, if you truly love them, you will accept them exactly as they are, no need to change a thing, accept the good with the bad, be there for them if they need, most of all, even if they hurt you, to not be angry, rather accept their limitations as much as your own, and move own.

The hardest realisation is,

you create your own suffering by the expectations, thoughts and attachment, you create.

Accept it, and let go. If you truly love or loved someone, you will set them free, free to be themselves, with or without you.Ā 

“I love you, I need you in my life, I need you to make me happy”, you may think that’s love, but that’s attachment, attachment brings you suffering.

In this civilization we have been brought up to believe we need people, things to make us happy, we attach to everything in hope for fulfilment, (that will never come) endless pit of suffering.Ā  Ā 

Isn’t beautiful to love a beautiful bird and let it see fly free, isn’t beautiful to love the sea and it’s waves, enjoy its waters, but not destroy its nature? Isn’t it beautiful to love a flower, see it bloom, and let it be just as it is? Beautiful.

Nature provides us with the most deepest displays of true love, always giving freely not expecting nothing in return

That’s love.

Do you know that bigger and taller trees, that can have easier acess to the sun and CO2, share their nutrients to the smaller trees, so they can grow? 

We have so many examples of love in nature, where animals and plants cooperate between them, for a better ecosystem, why can’t we humans follow that example? Why is it so hard? Why are we so greedy? 

The more we want, the more we have, and the more we have the more we want, is no end.Ā 

As humans, we always trying to change what we ‘love’, in hope of making it better, to fulfil expectations, we are missing the point.

Why we always end up destroying what we ‘love’?

We ‘love’ hearth, but are slowly destroying it, we ‘love’ animals, but still eating some of them, and destroying the environment in the process.

If we ‘love’ it, why change it? Why is it so hard to accept things as they are? To see the beauty of it all, as it is?

“The Tao does nothing. But Leaves Nothing Undone” – Tao Te Ching.

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My deepest self

I struggle to express my deepest feelings and thoughts, so I’ve though of a way to express myself here.

I love writing, what a better way, but to put in writing, what goes in my heart.

I struggle with questions, when people ask of me what I can’t give, not because I don’t want to, but because I’m just unable too.

Thoughts aren’t mine, I’ve detached myself from them, I see them come and see them go, I do not engage or trust them, because they aren’t permanent (Buddha’s teachings), and it’s true!

Since then I feel freer and more peaceful.

When someone forces answers I don’t know what to say.

I’ll express myself when I’m ready, when I feel like it, not when I’m pushed to give answers.

It makes me nervous. I’m as much an introvert as an extrovert, I like to be quiet, in my own world, I think, but do not overthink, I let my thoughts come and go as they please.

I simply don’t think is wise to follow my thoughts, they are just thoughts, I rarther follow my intuition, whatever feels right at the moment, whatever resonates with my essence.

When someone keeps asking about what I think, it’s hard, because,

I don’t really like to think much, I do like to feel, and go with the feeling, and again, isn’t really a feeling, but more like a force that propels me, something higher then myself that “tells” me what to do and when to do it.

I do plan the future, I have expectations, I have thoughts, but I make my plans, when I’m ready, and then I just trust my intuition, that “voice” to follow through.

At the moment I’m experiencing something, I don’t think have experienced before – Heartbreak – would I thought would be this painful? No, I just feel my heart has been stolen, like it was when I lost my child.

I just feel lost, but not desperate, I let the feeling be, embrace it, its part of the process, I don’t overthink, I just let it be.

It’s pointless to keep thinking, to go over and over things.

Let it just be.

Once you surrender to the pain, to the overwhelming feeling, its energy is released.

Little by little, you become free, peaceful, that for me is enough, feelings are just feelings, they come and go, just like thoughts.

Don’t make much of it, because they are not yours to begin with (Zen teachings).

I’m grateful for meditation, and all the Buddhist teachings I’ve learned, as they allow me to experience thing in a different way, see things differently and process whatever its happening in a useful way, for personal growth.

I like to listen, allow someone talk what goes in their heart, or even just simple conversation, I enjoy that.

But ask me questions with no end, I don’t know what to do.

Ask me for advice, I’ll gadly give you.

But go over and over the same subject, makes my mind spin, its like I’m in their mind, and all I experience is a world of thoughts spinning around like mad, its chaos!

The world would be so much simpler and peaceful if, people would realise that their thoughts, aren’t actually theirs, and the more you give in to thinking, the more unsettle, confused and untanngled you become, is no freedom.

Meditation is my refuge, my yoga is my home, where I can just feel my presence, be more connected to what is, to the world as it is, root down, ground myself, and just be.

I feel is nothing for me to do, and still nothing is left undone. Be free to experience the world as it is.

Such a beautiful feeling – peace.

When your feet touch the earth, your hands the water, your skin the air, and your heart the warmth of the sun – its pure joy, its magical, you are one with it all.

I hope one day I find someone that understands me, that accepts me as I am, that true connection does not need words, in a sense, a connection that goes beyond words.

But if I don’t, I don’t, again I’m not overthinking, I just take life as it comes, be what it will be, I’m One with it, I trust my InnerSelf to guide me, to speak my truth, to be my TrueSelf, to honour my essence.

May there be peace and love in my heart as in yous šŸ™šŸ»

ā€œAt the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.ā€ Lao Tzu

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